Welcome, I am so glad you’re here!
I’m a student from Cincinnati who is currently studying in NYC. I’m ardent about cultivating whole identities and relationships.
Here are some definitions of the word “whole” from the Merriam Webster Dictionary:
a (1) : free of wound or injury : unhurt (2) : recovered from a wound or injury : restored (3) : being healed
b : free of defect or impairment : intact
c : physically sound and healthy : free of disease or deformity
d : mentally or emotionally sound
My love for the topic of wholeness started in the womb. My mom was a practicing counselor, and she and my dad took listening and conflict resolution classes with Equipping Ministries International (EMI). They used these skills in their everyday lives, and growing up, I watched them live out and work through what it means to have healthy relationships. When I was a senior in high school, I took EMI’s International School of Service, a weeklong intensive on building healthy identity, relationships, and ministries. It was there I learned just how much I love the topic of wholeness.
Hurt and brokenness are sadly a part of life, but they don’t have to control or determine our lives. In high school, a relationship left me extremely heartbroken and shattered my understanding of my identity. This despair led me to a very dark place of eating disorders and anxiety that lasted almost three years. The healing in my heart and the deliverance I finally reached is the biggest contributor to my interest in the topic of wholeness.
Everywhere we look we can find division – politics, art galleries, churches, the classroom – the list is infinite. The only thing that can truly bring about wholeness is love – first and foremost, God’s love. Christ’s love enables us to love him, to love ourselves, and to love others as much as we love ourselves (Mark 12:30-31; 1 John 4:16-21).
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 explains what love is:
“4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (ESV)
Romans 5:8 declares: “But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.” (NLT)
1 John 4:18 reveals that “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.” (ESV)
Furthermore, love for others builds healthy relationships and creates an environment in which we can heal and grow. Tim Keller writes, “Love is the effort and desire to make someone else everything they were created to be.”
Love heals the deepest of hurts, and brings wholeness to even the most broken places in our lives.
I am certainly no expert on wholeness, but I want to continue to cultivate it in myself and my relationships, and to share what I learn along the way.
My hope and prayer is that this blog will help many people understand this powerful love, find greater wholeness in their lives, and equip themselves with tangible ways to love well.